How to understand and overcome procrastination?
This is a comprehensive guide on how to understand and overcome procrastination. Procrastination is one of the biggest obstacles to achieving what you want out of life. Many of us have things that we want to achieve that we never accomplish. Too often, this is primarily due to the lack of a concentrated strategic effort.
Maybe you blame time. You could say that you would love to start your own business , improve your house , write a novel , clean the kitchen… but you just don’t have time because you are so busy with work and taking care of your family. This is simply untrue.
We all have 24 hours in the day (16 of which passes them awake) may not seem like much, but it should be more than enough to achieve everything you want. After all, didn’t you see a whole box of your favorite TV show last month? Didn’t you spend two hours a day playing the latest video game? Didn’t you spend more than an hour watching TV or browsing Facebook on most nights of the past week? If you had spent all that time in a useful and productive way, then of course you would have achieved your goals. And probably much more. You probably would speak five languages now!
Part of the problem comes down to procrastination. But really this is the result of some much more important problems: those of energy and discipline. In this guide, you will learn how to solve all those problems.
Why you lack self-discipline?
Postponements stem from a lack of discipline. This is what happens when you sit down to work and immediately your mind begins to doubt. This, in terms, comes down to a couple of factors. For starters, the work you need to do is likely to be boring and unrewarding. If the job you had to do involved playing a computer game or eating a delicious cake, you probably wouldn’t put it off.
The other problem comes down to stress and anxiety. When you feel anxious and stressed, your mind wants to turn to that source and that stress does not allow you to get in involved in the things you have to do. This is why you often find yourself killing time surfing the web – it’s a bit like burying your heads in the sand and hoping the problem goes away. Of course, the irony is that the delay will only make things worse.
Ultimately, this is an example that you are not in control of your own mind. This is ‘monkey mind’. This is a great example of how you can feel out of control when it comes to where you want to direct your energy. And that brings me to the other problem:
Often times, you are simply too tired to do what you need to do. Maybe you just had a long day at the office and now you need to sort or clean the house. But you are too tired to do that, and therefore you think you should give yourself five minutes to rest first. Which quickly turns into ten minutes or twenty? And then it’s time to sleep.
Yeah, sometimes you lack energy and willpower to such an extent that you can postpone things until before the time of going to bed. You find yourself watching junk TV or browsing Facebook when all you want to do is sleep, because you can’t cope with the thought of having to get up and brush your teeth and face you daily schedule. And energy is also responsible for this to a greater extent.
Self-discipline requires energy. Whenever you make a decision, right or wrong requires energy. This is why we also tend to become less moral as the day progresses. Our willpower is fatigued at this point, so we often take the easy route. Now that you know all this, the next question is how you can end procrastination and gain unstoppable willpower?
Why Self-discipline is so important
Willpower and discipline are actually two sides of the same coin and this is an area of your life that you should seek to cultivate if you want to become a more impressive, powerful, and successful version of yourself.
Ultimately, self-discipline comes down to controlling your own emotions and actions. And that in turn means that you must learn to stop being a slave to the way you feel. You don’t want to work all night because it doesn’t feel right. And so, you do it slowly and your mind fights you every step of the way. However, a disciplined individual can simply tell himself that it doesn’t matter if he like it or no, it has to be done and that’s it. He chooses a goal, an objective, and exclude all other distracting thoughts and impulses.
This is a powerful thing because it allows you to get laser focus on what you are doing and complete any task. Yet at the same time, you also create consistency in everything you say and do. People will find that you are not easily annoyed by things that they can say or do. You will not be desperate to please others—You’ll be determined, disciplined and immune to the concerns of life.
This is so important. Many times, you try to please anyone because you want to be liked, you end up making weak decisions that end up annoying everyone. Very often you let your emotions guide you in your conversations and disputes, which causes you to react badly. And very often you curl up into a ball and don’t do the things that need to be done, which only makes your life more difficult.
A disciplined person rises above this and has under control all he actions and reactions.
So how do you become that type of person?
How you can get an unstoppable self-discipline?
How is discipline earned?
Self-discipline is earned in the same way you gain anything else—through practice and training. And what this also means is that you need to recognize the discipline that exists in each moment all 365 days of the year. Discipline is the conscious choice to focus on one thing and avoid distractions. Distraction is procrastination and procrastination is distraction. So, when someone is speaking to you in a conversation, it’s your job to sharply focus on what this person is saying to you. When you are supposed to be working in the office, but you are interested in whatever is happening on the other side of the office, it is your job to ignore this impulse. When you try to exercise but you feel tired, it’s your job to ignore the feeling and move on anyway.
Start by acknowledging that your feelings don’t matter
As long as you don’t get hurt, it doesn’t matter if you’re a little hungry, a little bored, a little cold, a little tired. No matter if you feel that you deserve a gift. Self-discipline it is to resist those impulses and concentrate on things you should be concentrated to achieve your targets.
This is a type of training ‘incidental’ that converts all your interactions and experiences into opportunities to perfect your focus and discipline. But you can also create more training opportunities along with your routine.
An example might be taking a cold shower. Standing in a cold shower requires a great deal of willpower and self-discipline and this is something that your body and mind will fight against you every step of the way. But if you can force yourself to dive into that cold water anyway, you’ll be training and harnessing your willpower. And indeed, cold showers are very good for you as it helps you to produce more testosterone, increase blood circulation, and train your immune system. Another example is making your bed. This is very simple, but it is a great habit to acquire—if you can motivate yourself and successfully do your bed every morning, even when you ‘re stressed, even when in a hurry, then this will be a great workout for you to do other things you need.
The importance of the reward
It is important to be disciplined to fight procrastination, but it is also important to enjoy life. And no one will be disciplined 100% of the time, no matter what they tell you. Being too repressive and strict can end up leading to more serious problems down the road. Instead, what I’m saying is that you need to reward yourself along the way.
Do you want to eat a big chocolate bar? Sure, you can. But only once you’ve spent a whole day keeping your X number of calories. Do you want to relax and enjoy a good book? Great! But first you need to complete X amount of work to have that under your belt.
Rewarding your good behavior is a great way to motivate yourself and allowing you to add some fun to your life without having to give up completely to be disciplined and strict.
A simple example of this would be your daily work. If you normally start your workday with a cup of tea and then chatting, it’s time to turn that around. From now on, you get the cup of tea and the talk as a reward for doing another task. Only allow these things after you have completed X amount of work. This motivates and allows you to work with fewer interruptions. The same goes for checking your phone: Put it in silence and allow yourself to check it every hour for five minutes. Doing this helps prevent procrastination because your willpower will not be strong enough to avoid it completely. Instead, you just have to be strong enough to hold your impulse for a while.
One more thing…
And one last thing you can do to get rid of Procrastination is: to meditate.
Meditation is an essential exercise in discipline. This is the practice of eliminate all thoughts that distracted you for a short period of time and, with this skill, you can start being much less easy to control by stress, fatigue, hunger or other impulses. Meditation can make you much more disciplined, less stressed, and much better and able to focus and get focus for long periods of time. Of course, that requires discipline. Start with small sessions of five minutes several times a week and go from there.
Procrastination is the absence of self-discipline and self-control. I hope this post (How to understand and overcome procrastination?) can help you to understand and start working on overcoming procrastination by being more discipline.